Oh and Cadet is one of the most knowledgeable people on this board. His posts are short but don't be fooled. There are lots of nuggets of knowledge from his posts.

He is absolutely on point that she WILL self destruct. The issue is when, and why, not if. So if you've embarrassed her and acted vengeful you would have jeopardized the ability to reconcile. Provided of course that you still want that when the opportunity arises. And it will.

Me, H-34 now 38
W-32 now 35
T-13 now 18 years
M-6 now 9
Daughter 3 years now 7
Bomb 11/27/12 - OM
1 year in house separation
Reconciliation 12/2013. Healed now 2017