Focus on living life as it is in this moment

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Congratulations on winning in court focus22. Glad that you are in counseling. Therapist try to get us to see reality and in her mind the marriage might be over. Mine did the same thing but it was at a time when I really needed to accept it. As for humiliation and shame you need work on that because you don't really have any reason for those feelings. The work you are doing with the therapist is very hard and Lord only knows where it will go. I found out that I was much healthier than I thought going in. She just kept saying "Those feelings are completely normal". I had been so beaten down by my STBXW that I believed everything that she said about me. I am glad to have gone through the therapy because I am now armed with a lot more knowledge than I had going into it. Hope you have had a great evening as it is early afternoon here. Stay strong and keep up the hard work!