I am relatively new here and am impressed with your handling of this situation. I, too, have a husband in MLC (For the past 5 years actually) and I threw him out 4 months ago due to his continuing affair with a work colleague. couldn't cope with it anymore. So of course now he thinks I hate him and has retreated completely.
I bought the divorce busting book to help deal with the aftermath but it is not specific for people who are having affairs. Is this the book you read? Or did you read one that was more specific to affairs? (You talk a lot about the DB book but am unsure which one you used). Please advise.
Thanks, and keep up the (damn) good work you are doing. x
Joss
Joss
sorry you are here .. I will try to read up on your sitch
Yeah I read both ... very similar, I think reading DB first is good .. DR is more of a refresher with some updated info to help. As far as the A .... you do have to reach a place where you realize that was/is simply a side effect of your M, by that I mean the M was at a point it was not giving the other spouse everything they needed ... not all on you, and your spouse entering into the A is solely their choice .. again .. not on you .. you are the keeper of that bag where the hurt goes, how you deal with that hurt is all on you, you can use it to grow, or you can hop on the sofa and let it eat away at you ... that is the choice you get to make.
