Sorry to hear this. Like you, I know lots about the OM that my wife began her affair with. I tracked down everything about the guy. I know his wife's name, his position at my wife's work, his address, his church's address, even his tee off times. But I don't have any solid evidence to really blast them with. I had a chance once, when I found the texts after our separation, and after she said she had broken it off. I missed it, and she locked her phone after that. We're on separate phone lines now, so I can't pursue it.
Me:36 W: 27 D2 T10 M:2.5 Filed D 1/14/16 BD: Sep 15 A Discovered: 11/17/15 She moves out 11/19/15