I'm going to hijack for a second to answer Barry. If there's something here than resonates with you, then that's good too. Otherwise, I think I'm going to let Sunny come back and offer her thoughts to you. BTW, I'm going to stick to my earlier assessment that it's more anger with you than resentment...
Barry, I spent enough time in IC to learn one big a$$ lesson on resentment. Here goes:
Resentment occurs when we expect others to take care of needs that we aren't willing to fill ourselves.
The cure for resentment is to amp up the self care. When we do that, we fill our needs and the resentment dissipates. It's not to say that resentment isn't a normal or logical emotion. But 100% of the time, when I feel resentment toward something or someone, I can guarantee that I haven't been doing things that are Betsey-centric, and I'm wallowing in that pile of resentment and self pity that just leads to more of the same. The moment I hop out of that mindset and do something for myself, I find myself seeing things differently. My soul feels more joy and there's less of that insidious, poisonous crap eating away at me.
I can say that my own resentment trap is directly correlated to my martyr complex. The more fuel I feed that complex, the more resentment I feel.
Good luck!
Betsey
p.s. Bitterness is a choice. And so is a soft, caring heart. When you start to fall down that rabbit hole, try to think of something more loving to replace it. It takes discipline and it doesn't come naturally, so work at it for awhile. If anything, just know that nobody wants to be with a bitter person. Think of it like eating vegetables because they're healthy for you.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
BTW, I'm going to stick to my earlier assessment that it's more anger with you than resentment...
