Considering I am a former WW, I doubt my response, to a man such as your H, would be appropriate. I would say only two words.
He could like the way I did it, or he could do it himself.
Look, he "picked" you when he M you, right? Stop being his slave and do things the way you want them done. I understand wanting to please your H, but there is a limit to things. He isn't your drill instructor coming in to do a military inspection. He's your mate.
I think the more you try to do everything perfectly, the further your self esteem will sink. As you said, you can't do anything that measures up to his extreme standards. So, just be yourself and he will either adjust or he'll do it himself.
Apologizing or agreeing that his expectations were not met, is not the healthiest way of validating, IMHO. You would always be apologizing. He has to learn to respect you as his wife, not his employee.
Life is too short to live this way.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
