Is it really the best idea to just let them have it both ways and wait for the affair to die?
Runnr,
here is the deal...you are not just waiting. NOPE. You are going to start living your life for you, you are exploring those areas of your life you want to improve on for you, you are looking at the real reasons why your marriage started to fail (so that YOU can be a better husband in the future - for you!), so you can start to learn what makes you tick and how you can be a content, satisfied, loving human being.
You are going to GAL, get a life of your own to start to enjoy what the world has to offer you, and you are going to do this without your wife.
You are going to do your 180's and start to tear your fabric of yourself apart to figure out how to make you a better person, because quite honestly there is not a single soul who comes to this site as the BEST they can be...so you are going to start creating a new Runnr who IS going to be the best one possible.
You are going to learn what love is all about, how to forgive, give up resentment, understand how women tick...all these things will be tools you carry for the rest of your life - making you a better partner in the future. This is not for your wife, it is because you want to be, OK?
So lets put those running shoes on and start to walk towards a better runner. I would see if you can either paste your current posts from in here into the newcomers section, or see if the admins can help there...getting the whole thing transferred over...I think you will get more traffic on your thread.
I am so very sorry you are here, but I am glad you found us. You are going to do well.
