Distance yourself from her. Keep your pride and integrity. Let her do her things. Finding clarity (although you may want it) will not provide any help. Assume the worst. Deal with it yourself keep things moving forward.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015