Hi, I am not up to speed on the situation so please excuse if my questions, etc., don't make sense.

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I didn't do anything to make it go away, but I told him I felt bad for him and us - that when he has hurt me, I couldn't seek comfort in him, like a spouse should be able to, and now I couldn't comfort him in his need.


I have a question about this - my W has stated before that I wasn't there when she needed me, but in reality I was. Its a perception thing for her (I discussed her emotional/mental issues in my thread, so I won't bring them up here) and she really believes what she perceives to be true. So, if one's spouse feels that they weren't supported/comforted, then how will continuing the same thing produce a desired result?

There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.