Reality is my middle name

[Irish M]

Hi Gwen
First of all great job with your girls. They seem very strong. I believe they get that from your strength.

I just read your story. I Am in the same situation as you.
W left me and my 2 girls 13-15 over 5 months ago. The D's haven't seen their mom in over 4 months. 3 emails since then in which my D's don't answer. They feel insulted. They like yours have said they are done. My W however had hurt them emotionally and verbally before walking out.

It is sad but I see now they are well. They have great friends and school is amazing this year. No drama.

They also said to me that I was the parent who was more present, loving, involved than W. i am sure you are the same. That is why our D's stick to us and it was easy for them to detach.

I hope your H wakes up and realizes what he has caused as damage in his selfish actions. If he does , Your D's will test his sincerity and will have him move mountains to repair the hurt. It's their trust that will be very hard to repair.

My W has missed so much in 5 months, I can't imaging what your H missed in over 18months. But That's their problem. You and me have missed nothing. I know there are sad times but think about all the smiles, laughter and joy you shared with them. I know I have had a lot. I'm glad I missed nothing.

I'm not expecting nothing from my W as contact for XMas. The girls want and expect nothing as well. We will have an awesome first XMas together without W. We are a family still.

Hope to see an update from you soon. Until then hugs.