Hi Focus, any time shame is mentioned, I think Brene Brown! Have you watched her TED talks? You may also want to have a look at the TED talk on infidelity by Esther Perel.
Hope these help a little. Also, are you seeing an IC? These would be good areas to explore at those sessions too.
Take care Sweetie x
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