Hi lovely P, just a thought on H being a 'frequent flier' in your house. Does he still have a key? It was his house and is now yours and it seems perfectly reasonable that he now comes 'by appointment' only. If he has a key, you may want to consider retrieving this if that would suit you best?

Glad to hear you are accepting more invites. I do think that helps. Have you also considered divorce recovery workshop? It's a worldwide thing I believe and there may be one in your area...

Sounds like you are doing well Sweetie. I think the main thing for you is not to get drawn into Kitty MLCer tenderness and go around that cycle again. I think that unless your H does some serious introspection and mature growth, you are best to move forward alone. But if he does do that growth - and he may well do - you can always reconsider.

Take care my lovely xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus