D-Day Tomorrow

[Sotto]

Hi Bobby, I'm glad you posted what happened - it is helpful to have a little more context.

So, from what you say your W was once a willing participant in the process. Can I ask if her participation was reluctant (ie: she did it to please you?) or enthusiastic, but then she changed her mind?

I'm not sure how this suggestion stacks up in DB terms, but have you ever offered a heartfelt apology to her for what has happened? One of the suggestions in my divorce recovery workshop is that you seek forgiveness for your part in the demise of the marriage. You are recently D, and your W feels you betrayed her trust by your actions - might it help to write her a heartfelt letter - not for the purpose of restoring the M - but to apologise for what happened?

Incidentally, I can recall someone posting a while ago who was involved in the swinging scene. I think his W had an A with someone they met through that. It may be that many swingers have happy M's and engage in that scene happily - but it strikes that it must be challenging to balance doing this and having a happy M. Food for thought perhaps.

Take care xx