[Sotto]

((((Bright)))) I am sorry to read your post above. It is hard when your spouse calmly moves towards D without wanting to work on the M.

It may be that he is in MLC and it may not. What I would say is that my H has projected 'sorted and happy' at times, but I think some of it is a mask. But, whatever the cause, please don't feel that you must have been a poor wife and person. Truly when you think about it, that's not the case. I'm sure like many of us, you will have been a good wife - not perfect by any means, but good nonetheless.

Perhaps this move forward will be beneficial to you and will give you some greater surety in financial terms and some more closure in emotional terms. I don't think it means there is no hope and it is up to you if you choose to continue standing as you separate assets and potentially D. I am glad that your H seems to be doing his best to be decent and discuss things.

For now, let yourself grieve this new development, and then you will be able to keep moving through this my friend.

Take care xx