[mleigh4]

I am so sorry. I don't know what to say but I can hear and feel the pain in your posts. This is a terrible process to go through, but you must believe and have faith that everything will be ok.

As far as your H, I have dealt with a similar coldness before. I find it hard to believe someone can be so numb and also be emotionally "ok" I am sure this is not the norm for him, otherwise you would not have been together so long. He may just not see any other way or solution right now?

I am sending you big hugs and prayers. I hope you hear from someone soon who can offer you some better advice.