spoke to OW..the 1 he said he has no contact with

[Rain75]

Pink,

Thank you for your kind words. We have 3 children. The youngest are 2 years old.

I want to take time away from this situation. And logically yes, I know that I can not control his feelings and thoughts however it doesn't help me in my pain. It kills me that he is home missing her and so broken up about losing her and not giving a rats a@$ that he shattered me and that im alone trying to cope with our kids.

I did stop all contact earlier today and will not contact him again. It just hurts too much. Now having seen it with my own eyes it hurts to know that while she is mad at him (even though she is married) for lying and saying we werent together. He is desperately trying to "win her back".

And i am mad and sad and his only responses have been anger and nastiness and telling me he is glad i know now.

Its like if im living in the flippin twilight zone!

I have 1 friend i told about this since she is the most likely to listen n not judge me for still loving him.

Im a latina and every one of my friends and family would advise the same thing even without speaking to one another or hearing the whole story. Its the way of our people plus i told some of them when it happened the 1st time and that was all i got.

Kick his a#% to the curb and quick! Hit than gym and start dating asap.

Sadly (for me but great for her:) the 1 friend i can talk to just started working at a hospital and so our talks are sparadic.


As for ow. She seems hurt that he lied to her (which has been easy since we live apart) and told her we weren't together. And now she feels betrayed and wanted to prove to me that he was denying our family daily and even though she isn't very affectionate, that he is. Also told me of the times theyve met up.

So strange to see their exchanges. If he talked to me like that id be in heaven. She feeds into his ego a lot. And i mean A LOT where i call him out on his s#!t.

And i should block her. But i havent since sadly he will never tell me the truth. At least this way i have found things out finally. As hurt as I am it is nice to know im not in the dark anymore and his secret fantasy isn't so secret any longer.

[censored] that i have to let him be while he is desperately trying to save his relationship with her.

Anyway..again. Thanks and i will try to limit my venting to the form and not him.

He cant hear me anyway through his obsession.

Ps. I read part of your story last week when I was still lurking. Im so sorry. I will read the rest soon. Thanks