I was saddened to read your posts today. It must have be a difficult day for you. This is taking a tremendous toll on you. You are a woman who has stood by the man she loves while he fights his demons. Again I shall quote Carl Jung,
"The healthy man does not torture others - generally it is the tortured who turn into torturers."
My hope for you was that you fight the good fight and while doing so your husband has a break through in IC. Then you two could work together at repairing the marriage.
It seems that either your husband is more deeply troubled then it first appeared or he is not making any real progress in IC or in the worst case scenario, both. Each time he has served you another portion of fault and blame you have tried to process the issues in a logical and well balanced manner. The discouraging part is that he is not improving and/or the situation is not getting any better. I am very proud of you. No matter how outrageous his claims have been you have loved him, supported him and tried to be good partner in your marriage.
There have been many times when you have describe the pain you are enduring that I reflect on how I created a similar environment for my wife. For that reason, I would stand up and advocate in his behalf. Your pain is now my concern. You appear to be truly suffering. If this continues the pain of staying could become greater then the pain of leaving.
The six month assignment for your husband is blessing. Live your life in peace and harmony. Strengthen your bonds with your children. Help your children foster better bonds with each other. This time will help you put things in perspective.
It truly saddens me to know you are suffering. Life is change and this to shall pass. Also know we are here for you. Be strong pho, be well
