I DO have to add that, while getting honest with myself about money stuff... I have a new appreciation for how he did try at times and how my behavior impacted him. I can see there were times he was at his wits end. At a low moment, I shared an amends. I reached out and he was, miraculously, there for me. I did need to cleanse my soul after something he said though which really bothered me... After the amends and moment of sincere weakness, He was telling me how he had tried and tried and tried and gave up. He seemed to take the amends as proof he was in the right for his actions.

I thanked him for being there and told him... There was never anything you coulda done to keep me from struggling where I did. That started before you. My mistakes/problems are mine and I own them.

It felt like something I needed to do for me. Not preaching, but making it clear we are both responsible for our actions.

"You know, it's times like these when I realize what a superhero I am." Tony Stark/Iron Man

“Focus on what you can do, then do it with all your heart.” Lois Wilson