Becky, how did I miss that your H has a hoarding problem? My H has depression and about 10 years ago was starting to "hoard" but I managed to nip that one in the bud. It was not at the point of being a "hoarder" but he had a large work van and started the habit of going out every weekend to "moving" sales and buying up or getting for free whatever didn't sell and bringing it home. We were getting very cluttered. My IL's were also going to sales and bringing their large work van loaded with big plastic kids toys about once a month- we had so much stuff it was crazy. At one point I discovered that we had mice and that helped motivate H to help me get rid of things. He has now gone completely the other direction and is a "minimalist" - has barely any belongings but is constantly shopping to upgrade what he has and then at least he gets rid of the "old" one, but I feel like its part of the same problem just the other end of the spectrum. (I'd much rather be on this end, but still, it is exhausting the amount of effort that he puts into his "stuff". )
