dday, gaining traction

[dday]

You are right tl2, I am in armadillo mode. Curl up in my shell and keep the bad stuff out. Detaching would allow me to get somewhat out of that. I feel bad that she will think that I am taking things from her, but I have to look out for myself and have a great place for the boys. I've noticed that when I stand up.for myself, she acts differently. She starts off mad, then when she sees I am.not backing down, she starts accommodating me. It's a 180 for me, I don't like to rock the boat. Now I see that it's ok to voice what I want, and try to get it if it doesn't negatively impact others. It isn't selfish, it is just trying to be happy and full.