Vice, my wife told me the same thing around BD. Years of unspoken resentment. I told her I wasn't a mind reader, so I listened to everything she said. It took a day or so for me to see it from her side and I validated her feelings. Since then though, she has said things that I cannot validate because they are not true. Even though I know its false, I understand it is true to her at the moment. In those instances, I just listen and do not argue. She will rattle off a list of things that bothered her and then tell me that she doesn't want to keep rehashing old events. It is rehashing only to her. To me, it's the first I'm hearing about it. I asked her why she never told me that these things bothered her and she responded by saying that she did not want to be confrontational. I have a hard time trying to see the reasoning in that. It's basically saying "I didn't want to argue, so let's get divorced". I know. 1/2 see, none hear.
Me-40's W- 40's Married 22, Together 29 BD#1- 6/15 W needs space BD#2- OM confirmed PA 1/8/16 Still both home, but not for long
