in house S (5)

[vise82]

Hey,

W emailed me today. It seems to work not emailing her first. The dynamic has changed and but this is the same a it was before BD, she would email me and I would avoid messaging her. I was just irritated to get messages or calls from her so I would ignore them. Why was I irritated? because it was always a communication to me to do something. Didn't get many just because emails or calls. Like it was another thing to add to the to do list.

Now if she text or emails me I reply after work. She seems ok with that right now.

Its about kids gifts, and what her parents can get one of the kids for a big gift. SO I am with the kids a lot and hear them talk about what they want and I give them the ideas and they get to reap the rewards (the kids do too because they get a great gift). Is this normal to express love giving gift like this? I have read its a love language. Its a new concept for me and seems like it can make the kid materialistic?

Its like this one time I wanted to get my kid a used bike, his first bike, but his grandma had to get him the shiny new bike that cost 10 times more. and every time he is on it W says to kid, who got it for him. Is that normal? to remind your kid who gave him what gift as they use the gifts through out the year?
It just rubs me the wrong way to hear stuff like that.

This email also included a statement that we are going to eat together before my kids event that W takes him to.

That's good she is thinking of us like a family. I am trying to be so positive right now. Almost to a fault.

Now that she emails me how do you get her to change the topic away from just kids?