Separated and I'm doing all the wrong things!

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I would not answer his texts. Continue doing the 180, GALing, act as if, and, when all else fails, fake it till you make it. Sounds as if he is trying to keep you around while still getting to go and do whatever he wants on the side. By not responding, you are showing him that you are NOT desperate enough to sit on the sidelines waiting for breadcrumbs. You deserve more than that. As for the group texts, have you done a google search to find out if there's some way to block the group messages on your phone? Or, perhaps an app that will do it for you? There's an app for everything these days, surely someone has come up with one for the annoying group messages.

I think the reason I don't cry every day anymore is because I have't seen called, texted, or talked to my H in any way, shape or form for alost 3 weeks. It has been SO hard and he is on my mind constantly. The tears have stopped for the most part though. I do feel numb and dead inside though. Pretty sure that is the depression and hurt but I don't know how to make it stop. I go to IC once a week, and walk a LOT, but haven't been very successfull in GALing. Apparently, if there's one out there, it hides from me very well! I will find it though.

You're situation is a bit different because you have children with him. Pull yourself together as best as you can because you have to stay strong for them. You don't want them to see how hurt you are all the time. My kids have seen way too many tears, crying and general falling apart on my behalf. I am embarrased that they saw that from me. I don't want them to see me as being a weak person. So, do something fun with your kids. Send lots of time with them. Make them your priority and try to be strong in front of them. This too shall pass and eventually you will find peace and happiness in your life.

Here's a cyber hug (((((Yola))))). Just remember one day at a time. That's all you can do. And, if you can't do that, try 10 minutes at a time.