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[Mona52]

(((pho)))
It is normal to think that, but trust me, it is 100% not true.

Look at your own feelings. Don't they rapidly change throughout the day? His does as well. I had a dream last night that was so real I have been awake for hours and I still feel like it actually happened. It created powerful feelings for my H.

You H goes through the exact same things. Of Course he is blaming you! If he did not blame you, he would have to place the blame on himself. He probably feel so much guilt that if he puts blame on top of that guilt he will break.

Believe nothing of what they say and only 50% of what they believe.

Give him time and he will get out of this stage he is in. You have heard this a thousand times, but just practice patience.

If possible, try and squeeze in a few things today that are just for you. It will combat his treatment of you. And whatever you do, do not believe you are what he said. Maybe some of it was true, but not to the extent that he is using it now.