Thank you Sandi. No she is not living with him. At least not where she lives. She maybe spending time at his place though. IDK. Assume so. I may let her know she can begin paying for her insurances though.I have spoken to my attorney and he said this would be ok to ask her to pay for her own insurances. I also thought maybe I could use the health care as a leverage seeing she needs the prescription care. try to make a deal for her to get into a psychologist if she wants to remain on Ins without paying. Our health ins is expensive and for her to get an individual policy will hurt financially. She is only working minimally. We do have assets though. She has drained down her Roth and if she wants any of the other money we both have to sign a form. My daughter is the thread but she has told her in no uncertain terms that she will not accept her mother as long as she is with him. D told her she will not be a part of her life. Doesn't seem to register.