A triangle is very strong, and a ladder is essentially a triangle when it's opened and sitting on flat ground which provides the bottom plane.
A ladder with two weak or broken sides won't support much weight. A ladder with one weak or broken side won't support that weight either.
You have to be a strong individual first. The only marriages that can support their fair share of weight are those where both individuals are strong independently of each other.
You seem to have a lot of strength but like all of us we have broken parts as well. Work on that like mutatio said and you'll be ready for just about anything.
I love this analogy. It's funny, I never thought of myself as a strong person. When my boss found out I was going through this she remarked upon me being one of the strongest people she knew (I had suffered some losses and health issues earlier last year and remained professional and maintained all my Committments). I am getting through this without medications or relying on any vices. I continue to meet all committments. I am probably not going back to IC (had 2 sessions) as I don't necessarily need it or trust it and would rather spend time and money on something else. for the most part I am proud of my actual behavior as I was able to separate my thoughts from my actions and behave in a manner that enabled me to maintain some dignity and humor. I have and continue to recognize my own faults and contributions and have changed or make plans to change them. I am trying to understand and address and accept my flaws. I am trying to understand and simply accept the lack of control I have over all events in life.
Maybe I am wrong and things will change tomorrow but for now I feel strong. By filing for CS I took back my power and I feel better now.
I have these boards to thank for it.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
