Dealing with WW, Divorce, and Kids 3

[WhyUs]

Sounds like you are in a much better place.

But I strongly caution you about feeling like you are OK with the custody status quo right now. I've seen lots of guys get to your stage where they feel OK with how things are going. But I can pretty much guarantee that in a year or so you will regret not doing all you can to maximize your time and your rights to them.

Thanks fade. I do feel like I am in a much better place right now. I intend to try and gain Right of First Refusal. I do not see a judge turning this down given our circumstances.

Part of me wants primary custody because I think I can raise the kids better that WW. I know I will be better at providing an environment that is conducive to co-parenting. I certainly will not attempt to alienate WW from the kids.

I honestly cannot afford to go to court every time WW does something dumb. I do not have the money and I do not want to be one of those families that finds themselves back in court every six months. If she does something egregious like getting a DUI with the kids in the car I will obviously go straight to court.

I thank you for your word of caution about settling for the status quo too soon.