Next Step?

[sandi2]

I meant to ask you if your W had been in therapy, due to the molestation?

Another thing I thought was odd. The other day W came by to pick D for a lunch date. A few days before I had texted her to ask to email me the sugar cookie recipe for Xmas. This was one of our traditions as a family was to bake and decorate cookies for family, friends. Great cookies. W loved doing this and is a great at making sweets and meals. She loved doing that. But anyways she dropped off 2 cook books. One of hers and one of her Mom's who is deceased. They had all the old hand written recipes back from her grandma. I dont understand why she gave those to me. She has also emotionally detached from the home we have lived in the past 16 years and the items in it. Including her parents furniture, pictures, anything with sentimental value. Is this normal?

You will probably witness several odd behaviors from your W, b/c she is going through a personal type of crisis. Sometimes, they look at those things (mom's recipes, favorite cookbooks, etc.) as being their former life, and now they have no need for it.

When my S's wife divorced him, she boxed up all their wedding pictures, and a lot of the wedding gifts, and things that had once been very sentimental to her. She gave it all to him, and it hurt to know it meant nothing to her now. She was starting a new life with a new man, and the things she had in her former life was not important. It had no sentimental value.

When I was going through my own crisis, I was ready to walk away from everything in my home and go to another state to live with a man I met on the Internet. How crazy is that? I mean, I think I'm a level headed person, but you can't reason with crazy!

So, some things.......or a lot of things, you just won't be able to figure out. When she comes through this, hopefully, she will return to the person she use to be.