Well, my guess is that she is doing the zombie act to discourage you from trying to persuade her that things could be better. Some women ride their H's back and show all type of disrespect, others are cold as ice. It is a method of proving to the H that it's useless to pursue a better relationship. In her mind, she is through with the M and has no intentions of putting up with any of your attempts to make things better. I believe some women treat their H worse after the BD, as a way to get him to agree to a divorce.
I think the best way for handling her not saying hello, etc., is for you to walk through the room and say, "Oh, hello", and keep moving, as though you are involved in something else. Don't hold up or wait for her response. Don't even wait to see if she speaks first. Just say hi, and move on. When you are detached, it won't bug you. Detached, you speak........based on the fact you are being the best guy you an be, and not based on her moods or lack of interactions. You move throughout the house doing whatever you want, saying whatever you want. It is her choice if she doesn't want to respond. Don't push it, don't over kill, and don't allow your emotions to control your actions.
Yes, I have an idea of why she is being rather rediculous about giving details of her whereabouts, but I will reserve those thoughts for the moment.
Have you noticed any changes in her appearances? Dressing younger, different hair color, plastic surgery, etc.? Notice any new friends? Does she spend more time on her phone or Internet?
Has she mentioned any new employees at work? Does she make business trips, or spend nights with girl friends? Has she lost interest in doing things around the home? Before the BD, did you notice if she appeared withdrawn more than usual?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
