I am patient I have said from start I will wait for H forever - but he is done. So I struggled with taking action (re lawyer) because I do not want to end our marriage but H is not contributing his share for expenses , kids, education etc. he is raking up credit, living with OW and spending money on her You waited 3 years and then reconciliation happened?- or was there progress throughout the 3 years?
If you go dark and start the process of rebuilding your own life without him you MAY be able to "wait for H forever" if you just don't date. However, if you keep in contact with him he will slowly but surely drain ever last drip out of your love tank and you will either come to hate him OR have a nervous breakdown.
You CAN wait and protect yourself in the meantime. Hiring an attorney and holding him legally accountable for supporting his wife and children is exactly the type of consequences he needs endure. To let him continue unabated is simply enabling him.
You teach people how to treat you. If the lesson is "I'm your doormat", he'll keep wiping his feet.
The internet is 90% complaining and entitlement and I hate it because I deserve better!
