Wife checked out

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Tonight W tells me that she hasn't been attracted to me for a few years and this is why she wants to see and potentially sleep with other guys. This is news to me, I knew that our intamacy had gone down but I figured it was from having the kids. When we would talk about it in the past she would say that it was her that it was something physically broken with her, like a medical thing. I just thought it was sort of normal considering our ages and time together. Or maybe I shouldn't believe a word she says and learn to STFU every once in a while.

Still need to work on detaching, it is the worst.

Went to IC this morning, her advice reminds me of Sandis advice. She is suggesting that I continue to create some tension and challenge between us. She heard W say that she may find it attractive if I were to be with another woman, while she won't directly tell me, it seems like she might think it wouldn't be a bad thing to try. She is also on board with me staying in the house and having W shuffle the kids back and forth every other week. To me, it feels like manipulation but it seems to be common advice, here and everything else I've read.