Mike - my wife is in the fog, even after outing the affair on 10/30/15. I thought that we'd be making progress on the M, since we've seen a MC.
Nope. Still in the fog. Every step we make forward, we seem to make it back to square one.
Hang in there - continue to be there for the kids. I'm sure she's in a EA, like my wife was. My W just turned in a matter of weeks. Got addicted to the guy via FB, then calling. It's been a week of no calls, as far as she tells me.
The fantasy Carousel will need to stop before she can get off. Sounds like the music is still playing.
What are you doing right now for yourself? Working out? Getting out with the guys?
M46, EXWW46 M15 T17 D20, S19, D13 M - Addiction since 1998 W EA/PA #1 2013/2014 W EA #2 June 2015... BD 1 Big D talk 9/15 BD 2 - EA/PA disc 10/30/15 Served D 1/22/16 Divorced 5/25/16 (yes, that fast!)
Right now, don't be in her face. Take it slow and gradual. Do something with the kids first, maybe pick up dinner here and there. Slowly earn back her trust and gradually change her mind.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
