I would advise you not to watch for signs of change in your W. For one thing, she has a completely different point of view from yours. You want to save the M, and she doesn't. Therefore, she's not going to try. As much as you want to gauge the process by her actions and moods, you can't afford to do it. This is not the girl you married. Everything has changed for her, including her thought process. She is going to be negative and she'll intentionally try to discourage you and thereby trying to prove to you that saving the M is hopeless. You can get your encouragement here, but you will not get it from her.
You cannot judge what type of day or weekend you are having based on your W's moods. She is living out of her emotions. She is living in a fantasy. Her emotions dictate her decisions and are subject to change without notice. You judge the day according to YOU, not based on her. That is only one of the reasons we tell you to keep the focus on you and not her.
Have a plan of action, based on what you learn here. Priority is reading Divorce Remedy, and the links on Cadet's welcome post. Learn as much information as possible to prepare yourself. Come to the board before you make any big moves, b/c once you say or do something......you can't take back very well. Most newcomers mess up by not checking with the board, first. They read something and want to apply it to their situation right then and there. However, many of them do not fully get it, for one reason or another.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
