Hi Lois, I agree with Job. Clearly he seems to be trying to maintain some link. But it sounds as though he'd like that link without really doing anything to change himself.

Will that work for you - to be pen pals?It is still quite soon after the D, and I think it is probably a good time to be enjoying your independence and building your new life...

JMHO of course xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus