Wayward Wife, my addiction, advice needed

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Sandi,

You seem to always make the difficult easy to understand!

I've revisited the detachment thread. Not being cold and showing her I care, but still detaching is a challenge. So easy to just stop talking with her, and show her my displeasure.

Tough to 'fake it until you make it' and be there for her as a roommate and father to her kids, but realize there isn't anything there in the marriage - yet.

Another question - I'm not the kind of guy that would just head out for a night, but I think that's something I need to start doing to balance out my life, and detach. The worry is that since we have 3 kids at home, the W will react very negatively, saying that I am abandoning the kids to be selfish and do my own thing. She's already made mention that I'm very self-focused right now and that she's upset, and that I'm being very selfish and working on the relationship. I almost laughed out loud, but I did acknowledge that I'm working on myself right now.

I'm supposed to work on the marriage alone, and without any commitment from her, and she's just 'work things out' within herself when she feels like it... or thereabouts.

This weekend was 2 steps forward, 2 steps back. Time to work on REALLY detaching. I'll be back at the books again tonight.