in house S (5)

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Yes I still have some fear in me. Fear of W getting angry

let it go. You are can not in control of her anger and responses. You are not responsible for them nor would you want the burden of it. Do not react or interact with her anger it will fuel it. Whatever, you normally do when she gets angry do the opposite (180). I would not recommend standing there and taking it but do not fuel it or give in to it. For my sitch I had to remove myself from the conversation. Once she cooled down I then made the statement "I will not tolerate you or anyone else speaking to me like this. When you are ready to have a constructive conversation let me know." This made her even angrier but I just again removed myself from the conversation. On multiple occasions I have had to tell her "my half of this conversation is over" and I leave the room. Amazingly enough it's gotten better. She was mad last night, not even really at me, but she was taking it out on me. I left the area, turned on the tv and tuned her out. 30 min later she came back to me and apologized. She said she is trying to get better. This is a big step in her personal development.

Moral of the story. Whatever you are doing when she gets angry is not working. Try something different but do not be afraid. Her anger is hers and it's her responsibility.