Mona, The first thing you need to do is slow down and breathe! You have a lot going on and your body is telling you that you need to slow down! You've come a long way in the business world since you posted a while back, but you are still working towards your masters and that requires a lot of your focus.
I'm glad to see that the children are thriving and enjoying life w/their friends and family.
Now, let's talk about your h. Do not offer meals or suggestions on how to get out of his financial mess. He is a man, not a child and you are not his mother. He is going to have to figure out how to survive and also pay child support and that means no reduction just because he can't figure out how to live. He can get a second job if money is tight for him.
Mona, I did go read your two previous threads and I want to suggest that you find a way to keep the focus on you and your family right now. Do not allow your h to have free space in your head. He can't miss his family if he's in touch or you are doing things for him. I know it's difficult w/children not to have contact...but only contact him if it's an emergency or something related to your children.
You've got this. You've been here before and it sounds like he might not have completed his crisis before. Leave him to it this time. Let him go completely and hopefully he'll wake up a mature man who is ready to face his issues and deal w/them.
You can find me over on the MLC Forum. Yep, still there helping others navigate the MLC Yellow Brick Road.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
