I am constantly amazed when I hear how much other husbands are involved in childcare. The more I read here the more I truly cannot believe that I was not the walk away spouse and it was my H.
Spiff, good luck with the employment situation. Can you get a freelance job until something more permanent becomes available? Can you sign up with a contractor/staffing firm, maybe they have some temporary work that fits your skill set? (or permanent)
I wish we didn't have to be anonymous on this board, I have an HR background and a lot of contacts. Although they aren't helping me much right now so maybe I am not as connected as I thought.
Good luck and keep DB'ing, its not over yet and there is hope in your situation. Although nothing you can do about SIL.