Don't know what to do anymore...

[Painter]

I called H at work, and he sounded very calm and not unfriendly. We agreed that we had both had very little sleep. I then asked him calmly if he wanted to separate. He said no. Firmly and decisively. I said I was glad, and that we needed to sit down and have a talk about how to make that happen, and he agreed. He's going to take half a day off work (this is unheard of, work always goes before everything).

We'll see how it goes. Maybe we'll get it right this time.