He does not control me with money. (I have enough saved and earn my own and get help from family) he just does not want to contribute fairly. I feel like he is taking advantage and not fulfilling his responsibilities. He might say I am using CS to control him since I am not in dire straights or anything.
In fact, I don't feel that he has ever really tried to control me. In fact he can care less about what I do, as long as it doesn't involve extra work or money from him. I was the one always trying to get him to do stuff with me and kids and resented him sleeping in or working or doing anything other then spending time with us. I resented this and criticized and made passive aggressive comments. Is that abusive behavior?
Really I felt neglected but not abused.
I have to admit though, I am not comfortable with how he is talking to me regarding what to expect with court and I can't put my finger on it. I also agree that the hoarding of money is a red flag. A close friend thinks some type of substance abuse issue (would explain the sleeping late and through hrs worth of alarms). I really have no clue. In past he did make subtle remarks regarding asking for more visitation if I asked for child support. He stopped this though. So maybe he is doing anything because he does not feel he should have to contribute. But I do know his behavior is not acceptable.
Our conversation was not in a parking lot but in a car because no privacy in home)
Also, I made a mistake. He did not take me off car insurance. I called and checked. I thought he did because a letter was sent to my address instead of his. He did say he would have to though because he is going to have a hard time financially,
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
