The irony about detachment is the harder we work at it then the more elusive it gets!

Detachment happens if you relax into your sitch, do that which works for you and let go of the outcome that gives.

So in your sitch if you had decided idea I will invite WH for a drink, then it doesn't matter if the answer is yes or no, you will be ok either way.

Another, you go to the hotel, you know you will be alone and it's ok if you are. If you stay home that's ok, you may avoid the pain of being alone but you miss the party. You detached went to the party because it was the better choice for you irrespective of being alone.

The worst has already happened in your sitch, you are sacked as the wife, and you will be ok if DB works, you get a new M and also you will be ok if you move on too. That's detaching, hence working DB, Sandi guidelines is easier because you can more clearly evaluate that which works for you.

You may not want to move on but that is ok as a choice. Detaching is a no loose choice at this stage for you and the better option.

The reason detachment is so good is because you can adjust that which works for you more easily. You chose for you by letting go of your emotion of WH reaction and the outcome. If what you do is the best for Feyth then it must be the better option.

That is how I understand detaching and how I work it.

V


Last edited by Vanilla; 12/07/15 12:16 AM.
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW