Bobby, I don't have any advise on your situation (I'm no expert and have never been in a sitch like yours). But what I can say is that I offer my support. The fact that you have told more of your "story" will help others help you. Some may seem a little harsh but they need to know where things went wrong to better help you. Nobody here is going to judge either of you. We all want the best for everybody! sometimes admitting your faults will begin the process of actually finding the root of the problem...
Me 34, XF 27 Many years together Son 4 Engaged Not engaged Many false starts by XF 7/16 new girlfriend comes into my life 2/17 girlfriend moves in my home