Ok here it goes. Don't judge us, me or her. Initially when we met we met other liked minded people on a website for "adult fun". There was no jealousy involved or anything like that. The trouble began when I continued to be active on this website and posted her picture. Not on the website but to private emails. She had always told her not to send her picture out. And I didn't listen. And it came to a head when I posted a semi-naked one of her. And I then lied about it. She had my email password. So I could never really hide that. I knew she would find out. It became almost like a game to me. I was very proud of the way she looked. And liked the responses I would get back. The issue was me.
A. Not listening to her and respecting her wishes. B. Lying to her. C. Not ever involving her in this process. I would do it behind her back.
As soon as we went to counseling and this came out. I finally realized how much I had hurt her. I vowed to never do it again. And I didn't. But her feelings were I had already told her I was going to do it. And that she didn't feel she could ever trust me.
So there you have it. I might also mention about this same time this came out to a counselor. She was hanging out with a couple of single girls that had just both been dumped by their boyfriends. Before it was just me and her that would solve our problems. We didn't really have any other problems and had really rarely ever fought. We had some financial difficulties at times but had work to resolve those. I think I had a problem of minimizing the problem too. Obviously I was ashamed to talk about it on here. I told the whole story to my best friend. But he put too much emphasis on the whole (adult fun thing). When It was..and my ex will agree to this. Me not respecting her wishes and lying about it.
