Hi Bob, I can understand you feeling a little lost, but please be aware that bouncing into a new R with a female colleague is a really poor idea. Ask yourself honestly, if my W turned around now and wanted to reconcile, would I jump at it? If the answer is yes (and my guess is it is) it would be unfair to bring another person into that mix.

Frankly, if your female colleague has any sense, she'll give you a wide berth right now (and I don't intend any offense here.) I think this is happening because you are desperate, hurt and needy - and any affirmation from another woman is like finding water in the desert.

I think you need to gather up your strength, draw back from your colleague, and throw yourself into GAL with a non-romantic focus. That will be far healthier for you than bouncing into a romantic entanglement. In fact, google 'entanglement,' and read about what that means.

One thing I read on another thread a while ago has really stayed with me. It was by a guy who said his greatest regret in all of this was causing great hurt to a third person due to his own great pain. Like you, he had been tempted by someone else in the early stages of his sitch - and in causing her hurt, he hurt himself too.....

Take care my friend....you can do this x

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