My WW - Trying To Stay Strong

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Strngr!, telling your buddy was the RIGHT thing to do. It brings the EA/PA out in the open - your wife was living in both worlds, and she was prepared to handle just you, when the time comes. She now knows that by having the EA/PA she has done damage to her WHOLE world. You will look back at that day and realize it was the catalyst for movement in the affair and in your M.

This will take time for her to process. She no longer can live in both worlds.

I'm waiting for my wife to come back from an EA. I think I'm a patient man, but when weeks turn to months, it can be REALLY trying. Keep your focus - yourself, and your S1.

I don't know if sending your mutual friends to her instead of talking with you would help. It's nice to have both sides of the story from their perspective, but in any way,shape, or form, a EA/PA is wrong.

When the time comes, force your wife to put herself in your shoes - would she be OK with you having a girlfriend on the side or another wife besides her? Of course not. But she's been asking you to do just that.

My wife suffered from some baby blues, and weight gain after the kiddos. It had a tremendous effect on her, and she never talked to me about it - was too ashamed. Anything like that with your wife?