Late to the party as usual! Hi Sotto. I like many have already posted, love to read your updates. You give me hope to move forward in my GAL activities when truthfully I would rather just cocoon up.

Regarding forgiveness, and with apologies for the late response, are you familiar with the process of Ho'oponopono? from Wikipedia: "Hoʻoponopono" is defined in the Hawaiian Dictionary[11] as "mental cleansing: family conferences in which relationships were set right through prayer, discussion, confession, repentance, and mutual restitution and forgiveness."

Basically you say to each other, "I love you, I"m sorry, I forgive you and Thank you for the lessons."

Actually my H and I have consistently done this since the beginning. Not sure yet if it's helped at all for him, but I certainly am able to hold him in a place of compassion most days. Anger and resentment are poisons. No one needs that in their lives, but forgiveness does take time. Even contemplating the concept of forgiveness is more than many will do.

It's good to catch up on your thread. Wishing you a season filled with much love and joy and a bit of time for yourself too. xoxoxo

M 20+ T25+
S ~15.5 (BD)
BD 4/6/15
D 12/23/16

"Someone I loved once gave me
A box full of darkness.
It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver