Don't know what to do anymore...

[Painter]

I don't know why this worked (maybe because I said just one sentence and then left the room, it seems to work better than long explanations) - but this morning, the first thing H did, was come over to me with a smile, put his arm around me and give me a long, affectionate hug with no sexual undertones.

I'll take it!

Zues, I have read your reply a couple of times and I'm just not sure how to answer. I am definitely not in a M just to have my needs met all the time. It's been a one-way street with H for years, and that's why I'm not sure that our 'new' M is going to be very different than our 'old' M, in spite of the changes I have made through DB'ing.