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Hi Scrant, I definitely feel you are going about things the right way. From what you post, your W is a little curious and that's a good thing.

I would say keep building up GAL activities and extending yourself, minimising interactions with your W but keeping them pleasant. I would say the gentle ending of a convo when she starts asking about you is just the right way to handle things. Without any meanness, you are conveying - Hey, you chose to move in with someone else - you don't get to hear about my life any more...mine is mine and yours is yours now. There is no ours. And all of that is done gently, and more firmly if needs be - but never meanly.

There is a wise poster in the MLC area of the forum (well many wise posters actually) but AJM always seems to post things that resonate with me. He posted along the lines of - your imperatives now are threefold - live a good life, be a good father, be a good man.

I think it is then a case of defining what 'good' means to you in all of those areas. Then you can solidify 'good' into some definite goals and move forward with those. See, none of that is about your W and her choices. And I think if you stay on that path you can't go too far wrong. Your W however may not like this and may not want to lose 'control' of you. She may try (and is trying I think) to pull you on to her path. But her path is a rocky road where you are in a triangulated position with OM in the picture. So, stay on your own path and leave her to her own road for now.

You're doing very well for someone so early in to this process. Take care xx