Hi Becky, I also have an H who is with OW and has filed for D. He initiates more than I do now via text and email. I work on the basis of pleasant, mysterious, minimally available in any responses to him.

I do think that very much takes the pressure off the situation and leaves things to slowly implode with OW, without you being a negative factor in that mix. Separately, I try and focus on building a good life without him and healing from the trauma.

Sounds like you are doing well - much better than I was doing at your point in the sitch!!

Take care xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus