Hi PP, I think your perspective is just right. It is most helpful to hold yourself in the present along with processing and integrating what has happened in the past.

I do feel there is a little reaching out going on with your W. But I think it is back to RD's stars and planets here. You may be seeing a few stars - which is a good thing - but not yet (and maybe/maybe not ever) a planet. And for that reason I would say hold your course here.

I was reading a post by AJM on the MLC area of the forum - a wise poster giving plenty of food for thought. AJM said something along the lines of - your imperative here is twofold - to live a good life and be a good man. And I think if all your actions are aligned towards those goals, you can't go too far wrong.

I'm so pleased for you as you head towards a full year of sobriety with exciting travel plans in the mix too. You are a wise and kind online friend and I always look forward to reading your posts.

Take care xx


T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus